Getting a taste for kissing
There are many different ways of kissing; a light brush of mouths or a gentle nibbling of lips, however few lovers have really mastered the art of passionate kissing. Kissing someone shouldn't feel like going on a potholing expedition or being sucked into a vortex.
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During a kiss, the gentle caress of lips, tongue and teeth stimulate the sense of taste, touch and smell. This shared act of intimacy can and should be unforgettable. After all, who doesn't remember their first kiss? And if you haven't had your first kiss yet, then all the more reason to read on to find out how to avoid these mistakes and learn to kiss like a movie star ...
Lighting up desire
The mouth is one of the most sensitive parts of the body so a kiss can provoke very pleasant sensations and extraordinary emotions. Kissing is a way of getting to know the other person better; a way of sharing feelings or it can be a form of foreplay.
But you guys should take care not to be too systematic or perfunctory in your approach; many women hate the fact that men just see kissing as a prelude to sexual intercourse, rather than enjoying it for what it is. And some women avoid kissing altogether because they worry about having to stop their partner from getting carried away. You can kiss without having sexual intercourse but to have intercourse without kissing is an unnecessary form of deprivation!
A world of discovery at the tip of your tongue
A kiss doesn't have to be deep to be pleasurable. It's a sensual exchange, not an exploratory expedition. Brushing lightly against, or gently nibbling the neck or nape of the neck, can also be very sensual. Often, however, the nape of the neck is just a pit stop en route to the ears or lips. You should take your time, linger there a while.
Ears can be nibbled, sucked or licked but are neglected by many lovers, for no apparent reason. Kissing either the outer part of the ear or the lobe can be highly erotic and the amplified sound of your breathing will increase your partner's desire. And, of course, whispering sweet nothings or talking dirty can also be highly erotic.
Once you've kissed your lover's cheeks, eyes and around his (or her) lips, move on to the mouth, kissing it tenderly. Brush your tongue over your partner's lips, encouraging him (or her) to slowly part them. But don't rush things; enjoy the moment; enjoy the taste and smell.
Always be aware that there's no golden rule of kissing; it's up to you discover what works best.
What to avoid while kissing
It's important to follow your instinct rather than set rules. However, if you're to avoid totally repelling your partner, there are a few things that you need to bear in mind. Here are the five big turn-offs.
- First of all, make sure that you have fresh breath and clean teeth... if you want to end your evening in a passionate clinch, avoid garlic, onion or highly spiced exotic food. And it's not just the first kiss that's important; taste buds don't become less sensitive over time.
- Take your time. Your tongue should be both flexible and firm but don't become too analytical. Just let yourself go!
- Even if you have a lot of saliva, try to avoid sloppy kisses and dribbling all over your partner;
- Don't just give perfunctory kisses. A kiss given in the absence of desire won't be well received.
- Don't let your tongue or lips go slack. Kissing a limp squid is a real turn off!
Are you a little nervous about your first kiss? Don't be - there's no need to panic. A heartfelt kiss rarely goes amiss.
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Posted 30.06.2010
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