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Spice up your sex life with forfeits

There's a new trend for erotic forfeits. Expert Marc Dannam takes us through some of the most risqué punishments to spice up your sex life and broaden your horizons!

What are erotic forfeits?

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As the name suggests, it's a sort of gentle punishment when your partner hasn’t done what he said or has broken a promise he made. You casually slip into conversation something like: “I bet you forgot the lime for the mojitos”, or even “I reckon Usain Bolt will win, want to bet?” And with this you can start playing an erotic game where whoever loses, wins! The penalty for losing the bet is a little erotic gesture your partner is obliged to carry out if he loses, or which you have to do if he wins.

Why play the game? The libido is fed by fantasy, adrenaline, suspense and submission (whoever loses is obliged to submit to the other’s wishes). There’s everything to gain if you dare. Read on for a few brilliant ideas from Marc Dannam, author of 669 Pages of Eroticism to Spice Up Your Sex Games. 

Forfeits for her

If you’ve lost, you have to pay the penalty! And your man has quite a choice when it comes to punishment...

The Yoga Forfeit
He’s got you now, so no running off to your yoga class! He can request, gently but firmly, that you get your yoga mat out and go through a few sun salutations just for him – only naked. 

What’s in it for him: He directs your pose, encouraging you to push yourself that little bit further while he lets his mind wander... getting some inspiration for later on. 

Tips: Decorate the bedroom so it has a real Indian atmosphere, with piles of cushions so you can show off your Kama Sutra moves later. 

The Flamenco Forfeit
He has an image in his mind of flamenco dancers who know how to show their passion and their heart to a man. Teasingly, he suggests you put on a flamenco show for him, but not just any flamenco. This dance has a serious erotic intensity to it and you have to add some unique twists to spice things up. Put on a performance in high heels, dressed only in a Mantilla veil with castanets or a fan as accessories. 

What’s in it for him: He can play the torero, if he’s feeling the heat.

Tips: To really kindle your passion, soften the atmosphere with candles and drape red fabric over the furniture.

The Slow Striptease
Maybe he wants to make the pleasure last. As a punishment, you are going to have to pander to his every whim all day... as per usual! Every hour, you have to take off one piece of clothing - wherever you are! At the end, you can get dressed again in some sexy underwear before giving yourself to him completely. 

What’s in it for him: He has to keep watch over you to make sure you don’t cheat! But he can’t try anything until you are completely naked, to build up the sexual tension.

Tips: Let this little show get you all hot and bothered as well! Dress in front of him in a seriously sexy way so he is the one who is caught slightly off balance.

The Sexy Stranger
It’s well known that a stranger can sometimes awaken deep rooted desires, so his punishment might be a mystery. You have to become someone else. Cover your hair in a flamboyant wig, put on different makeup and disguise your eyes with sunglasses. It’s still you, but different! All you have to do is strike up a conversation.

What’s in it for him: He can be someone else too if he likes, to play along with the drama.

Tips: Whatever happens, keep hold of those accessories!

The Geisha Forfeit
Geisha have always fascinated men. In the Land of the Rising Sun, love is a real art form. Before enjoying more carnal pleasures, you play the geisha and awaken all his senses and his imagination. Much more than your average foreplay, every one of your gestures should be designed to stimulate his sensual awareness, paving the way for more physical contact later on. You can even lean over him and perform the famous geisha tea ceremony.

What’s in it for him: He gets to choose a selection of different Japanese prints and then you choose which one to act out.

Tips: A simple kimono, pale makeup and chopsticks for your hair is all you need. Why not learn a couple of words in Japanese too?

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Catherine Maillard

Posted 24.08.2012

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