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Is it possible to intensify orgasm?

To make orgasm last longer, and be more frequent and intense, some women and men are willing to go to great lengths: studying up on the subject from all possible angles, doing targeted physical exercise, training for acrobatic postures and so on.

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So, are crazy orgasmic love nights the domain of expert lovers only? Not at all. Women are capable of experiencing multiple orgasms during intercourse, but men are, too! It just requires a bit of training.

Intensifying orgasm for men

The less control a man exercises over his ejaculation, the less intense is his pleasure. Therefore, he should by all means try to control his climax by slowing or pausing the action when he feels that he’s about to reach his peak. Thus, he’ll be able to heighten pleasure without letting it overwhelm him. The aim of this technique is to postpone the orgasm while increasing its intensity.

A man who wants to experience multiple orgasms should learn to avoid ejaculation altogether. Specific techniques have been devised to this end, most of which arise from the principles of Tantrism. If you’re curious and wish to know more, read books and articles on this topic, such as Barbara Keesling’s “Sexual Pleasure: Reaching New Heights of Sexual Arousal and Intimacy”, which is a wealth of advice well-worth putting into practice, on your own or with your partner.  

Intensifying orgasm for women

In order to bring on an orgasm and better enjoy her partner, a woman can intermittently tighten her vaginal muscles around her lover’s penis during penetration. All women are physiologically capable of reaching multiple orgasms and there is no specific training to achieve this, it’s easier than for men! It’s all about your desire for more: after you’ve reached your first orgasm and if your partner has enough energy left for more, seek out new sensations together and enjoy it all over again.

Pleasure-enhancing exercises

According to French sexologist Marie-Hélène Colson, the chief interest of a sexual workout lies not in learning miraculous techniques, which don’t exist, but rather in heightening your awareness of your own body and sexual organs and shedding your inhibitions.

  • Kegel’s exercise aims to flex and train the pubococcygeus muscle, or PC muscle, used to stop the flow of urine from the bladder. This exercise can be performed as a way to become conscious of this muscle of the body. Be mindful of repeating it too often, though, as it might cause difficulty in emptying your bladder and lead to urinary infection.
  • Dr Barbara Keesling’s advice: this American sexologist and author of “Sexual Pleasure”, published by Hunter House, argues that pelvis and groin movements can help control the intensity of sexual pleasure. The principle is as follows: big movements increase sexual tension while slighter movements decrease it. The woman, lying on her back with her legs parted, lifts her buttocks a little way off the bed. In this position, she undulates her pelvis up and down in a continuous and sensuous fashion. She caresses herself and, when she begins to feel pleasure, repeats the movements to enhance her sensations, then slows down and picks up again in an effort to modulate her pleasure at will.

The relentless quest for the ultimate orgasm

Many women, albeit thoroughly satisfied with their sex lives, fear that they might be missing out on something even more stunning, or blame themselves for gaining more pleasure from clitoral stimulation than from vaginal penetration. Indeed, clitoral pleasure has long failed to receive the attention it deserved. Women should stop being concerned about this and, most of all, stop believing in good and bad orgasms: the only thing that matters is how much you enjoy yourself, not the technical descriptions or theories about it.

The same goes for men, many of whom worry about not giving their partners orgasms or, on the contrary, seek to achieve the greatest sexual performance possible because they’ve heard that women could reach several successive orgasms. Sexologists all agree that if you attach too much importance to physical performance and the gymnastics of love, you’ll end up never letting yourself go and won’t enjoy the pleasure of the moment. So, be reasonable, relax and above all enjoy!

Posted 18.04.2012


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